Tips for Keeping Boredom Out of your Relationship

Boredom in your sex life may kill your relationship. During the first months of your relationship, sexual encounters are exciting and new. However, time goes by, the partners get accustomed with each other, and the magic wears off. According to relationship experts, it is possible to avoid boredom in your bed.

Louanne Cole Weston, PhD, a board certified sex therapist and a licensed marriage therapist, and Michael Castleman, a health journalist, have provided professional advice on a healthy sexual life.

Make a date for having sex, this is what Castleman suggests. Leave your partner and yourself enough time to relax and have a wonderful time. The expert says it will not kill excitement or spontaneity. There is nothing wrong to make a time schedule for an enjoyable program.

According to Dr. Weston, it is a great thing to have a trusted and loved partner. A meaningful long-term relationship adds to your mental and physical well-being. Sexuality is an effective way to get closer to the deeper layers of your partner’s persona. When the first excitement is over, you should not run to someone else; Dr. Weston says it is a cheap escape. Working on your already existing relationship is more fulfilling in the long run. When reality kicks in and problems arise, you should be willing to solve them. You get back what you put out.

Dr. Weston mentions other reasons why sexual pleasure is fading over time. Probably the couple has a problem called “desire discrepancy”, one partner – usually the male partner – wants to have sex more often than the other one. It is a common problem for married couples or long-time partners; Dr. Weston says it is one of the most frequent reasons when couples turn to sex therapists. As time goes by and women hit their menopause years, they will be less interested in sex. Their desire declines. This is because their body produces less estrogen, a female hormone. However, other women may experience more intense desires, since their testosterone levels rise. Each case is different. Therapists cannot just say women to have sex more often – they are looking for a compromise that is acceptable for both partners. Dr. Weston advises male partners to be patient and take the initiative, with plenty of love and care, letting their wives know that they find them attractive. Once they show romantic interest and get some foreplay started, their wives will relax and feel at ease with their advances.

Make sure that your partner feels physically comfortable. Having sex on the floor may sound great in a sexual fantasy, but in reality, it may hurt your partner’s pelvis bones. According to Dr. Weston, a comfortable position counts, for example, a nice, solid table; the woman’s pelvis should rest near the edge.

Dr. Weston says openness and two-sided communication helps a lot. Partners should talk to each other and trust each other. Attitude towards sex also counts. If a woman feels liberated and comfortable with sexuality, she will more likely enjoy her love life.